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  • Patient Name: Felix
  • Cancer Type: Acute Lymphoblastic Leukaemia
  • Age when diagnosed: 10

Please invite people who might say no

23rd May 2019

Invites bring opportunities for laughter, fun and growth

As a family, we have always had a ‘yes’ policy. If we get an invite, we say ‘yes’ unless there is a reason why we can’t. Invites bring opportunities for laughter, fun and growth – we always, when we can, say yes.

Unfortunately, in the past few years we haven’t been able to say yes, we have dithered or even defaulted to ‘no’ – just in case.

Now, those invites have dried up.

This isn’t a call for sympathy

I can count on one hand when we have been invited to something in the last year.

This isn’t a call for sympathy – it is a call for people to keep inviting people even though they might say no. This is even more so if life isn’t going as smoothly as it should be.

In the last three years, the invites have dwindled. We are strolling down a ‘divergent’ path. I want to take this opportunity to thank those who have invited us for dinner or coffee or a walk to help us take our mind off things. I want to thank those who keep asking even if we have had to cancel or postpone. This is the nature of the beast.

Please keep inviting them even if they say no

If you know someone who is going through something different, or tough or you just love them – please keep inviting them even if they say no. One day they will say yes.

My heart is with all those families who are venturing down that unknown and divergent path.

 

This blog was originally published on Kerry’s blog on 11 April 2019.

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