Cancer does affect siblings as well
Whilst these consequences relate to a child with cancer, they also significantly affect the siblings. If you have a child in your class whose sibling has had a cancer diagnosis, please bear the above in mind. They may appear well-adjusted and be coping well but they have witnessed their much-loved brother or sister experience possibly all of the above and more. They may have watched their sibling sleep for days because of the chemotherapy, they may have seen their hair fall out or they may have run for the sick bowl to try to save his/her’s dignity. No matter what their age they have probably seen their parents cry for the first time, felt frustration when their sibling gets another gift/treat and felt disappointment when their sibling and parents have to spend another night at the hospital. There is the uncertainty of who will collect them from school, cancelled plans because of infection risk or guilt as they carry on with their everyday life. Despite this, they do not say a word as they know their brother/sister’s life is far tougher; the siblings are quite often the unsung, silent heroes. As for the parents, they have tried to keep their family glued together and ticking along whilst all of the above is happening. So, if they appear distracted or apathetic, any of the above could be at the forefront of their mind. At some point their child has been so sick they have been too scared to look to the future. Their priorities have probably changed since their child was diagnosed; life looks a bit different now. Yes, they are going to be over-protective and insistent that you know about their child’s illness because they have suffered so much already. They will want to protect their offspring; this is the primary function of a parent. Despite all of the above, Felix wants to be normal. He craves to be a normal 11-year-old kid doing everything that an eleven-year-old kid does. We try our very best to make sure that he fully engages with life, has the opportunity to fail and take risks. It’s tough because I would truly love to wrap him in cotton wool but I know I can’t. I can’t wait for him to grasp the opportunities and experiences available to him at Secondary School with two hands and love every moment. So good luck to all the kids and teachers for the new academic year. This week will be a furore of highlighting, organising and planning on both sides of the desk. I really can’t wait to watch and support all three kids through the next year of their education. So to the teachers, staff and kids alike – here’s to a cracking 2017/18, it’s going to be awesome! And to Felix – good luck today, you’ll smash it!
This article was reproduced by with permission from author [Kerry] and was originally published at: mrsbrown.me 03.09.18
